Emotions 101

Are you a mature woman of God? How do you know?

We all have room for improvement. But, you should not be the same woman you were ten years ago, five years ago even one year ago. In fact, you should grow each and every day. We should continually be beseeching the Holy Spirit to mold us, to change us into the women He has called us to be.

Last time we took a look at gossip. This week, I want to look at something every one of us must deal with, and that is our emotions.



First of all, there are all kinds of emotions. There is fear, anger, happiness, sadness, anticipation, disgust, surprise and trust. They can be used in the manner in which God created them, or they can be used in the manner the enemy has distorted them. Not only do we have to contend with the enemy’s manipulation of our emotions, but we must also deal with our flesh. And most often, our flesh is our own worst enemy.

Our emotions are strong and I’m not saying our emotions are bad. God created us as emotional beings. Our emotions enable us to feel compassion and unconditional love. Because of our emotions we can show empathy. Our emotions allow us to cry with a friend when she’s down or be brokenhearted when someone we know is hurt.

Check your negative emotions at the door. I mean, the bathroom door right after you’ve gotten up. A mature woman of God has learned to control, or recognizes her need to control her emotions.



She won’t use tears to get what she wants. She won’t blow up at her friend. She won’t yell and scream at her children. She won’t take out her anger on her husband just because he’s “safe.” She will respond appropriately when wronged. She will give the benefit of the doubt. She will try and find out what is wrong. She will not connive or construe to get her way.

True, there is no perfect woman, but a woman who is seeking after the heart of God will continually be working on being more like Christ. She will not set out to do those things mentioned above. Yes, she will make mistakes, but more often than not, lashing out at those she loves will hurt her more than the person on the receiving end.

So many times we women allow our emotions to govern us. As my daughter reached a certain age, I began to explain to her the importance of controlling our emotions and not letting our emotions control us.

When my emotions are controlling me, I am easily offended. When I am in control of my emotions, more often than not I see things for what they are. I am walking in discernement rather than allaboutmement.

The first step in becoming who God is calling us to be is realizing we are not there yet, that we still have changes that need to be made. I challenge you to look at yourself. Scrutinize yourself. And be honest with yourself.

Every now and again I have to beat some emotion that is threatening to show its ugly head with a stick. Yes, we all do. The key is…being honest enough to admit it and then do something about it.


Do you control your emotions? Or do you allow them to control you?

Together, we will become mature women of God!