Wednesday, April 18, 2012

80+ in a 70!

My hubby and I have issues. I should say my hubby has issues, but to be fair, I’ll include myself. (Even though I really do know these are his issues!)

If I am chatting with my daughter or one of my friends, I can be talking about one thing then jump ship so to speak and they will follow along, not missing a beat.

If I do this with my husband, he is lost. Completely and utterly confused, he looks at me with his nose scrunched and his eyebrows nearly touching heaven. “Huh?”

I try to explain the connection to him and how in my mind it made complete sense to jump from Jeremiah’s school to Jonna’s new boss. I explain each stone that I docked at and how I ended up putting the anchor down at the new boss. I bet, if you are a woman that is, that you know exactly what I am talking about.

Well, the other day the tables turned. We were driving the down the road talking about a subject and he made the jump. All the sudden he made a comment that had absolutely nothing to do with our current conversation. I sat still for moment, jumping around from topic to topic until it made sense. I then commented on his remark, knowing exactly what he was talking about.

I then looked at him and asked, “Did you see how that was done?”

He started laughing as I explained the process of narrowing down the obvious meaning to a sudden turn in conversation. I am still using that against him. Why? Because I can and it’s fun!

Tonight for instance he came to me asking me a question about facebook advertising. We have been doing some pretty deep digging in marketing, including facebook. I made a comment about banner ads and he says “for what?”

I was rubbing my daughter’s shoulders; I physically turned her and asked her, “Did you hear what he just said?”

We both busted out laughing. I said, “Hun, that wasn’t even a jump, it was on the topic you chose!”

He laughed as well.

If you are married, have you noticed how different you are in some ways; yet in other ways you are the same? How God has put you together so perfectly that your spouse picks up where you leave off? That he can finish your thoughts…or maybe not! LOL

But, our opposites compliment our personalities perfectly. We balance one another, or at least we are supposed to.

Recently we took a 12-hour road trip. When I drive, I tend to speed. I don’t like setting the cruise control because I feel like I am not in control of the car. My husband on the other hand tends to casually cruise down the road, enjoying the scenery and generally taking his time.

On this trip, I would occasionally find myself hitting the 80-mile an hour mark, and then some. I’d quickly ease off the gas and maintain a more reasonable speed for a little while, at least until my foot started getting a bit too heavy!

My shift being over, I turned the controls over to the one who completes me. A half hour later I gasp. “Honey, at this rate we are never going to get there and you are canceling out all the time I saved us by doing 80!”

He was doing 57 in a 70mph zone. I couldn’t believe my eyes. How could he? Did he not know I just risked our grocery money to save us a half hour? At least do the speed limit, please?

I love what God did for me when he gave me my husband. While we may be polar opposites in some things, we are exactly the same in what counts.

We both love the Lord our God with all of our hearts and minds and souls. We love one another and relish the time we get to spend together. We work well together and we rarely fight. We have the same goals and the same beliefs. We know where we are going and we know how to get there.

I am so blessed to call this man my husband.

In honor of our anniversary on Saturday, this post is dedicated to him.

Thanks for growing with me this Wednesday! Darlene


  1. Happy Anniversary to you and your hubby, Darlene! My husband and I are both McSpeedies on the highway, but when it comes to other aspects of our personalities, we're like east and west. Opposites do attract :)

  2. Thank you both! Brandi...yes, indeed. There is something to the polar opposites attracting syndrome!

  3. Hope you had a wonderful Anniversary!